Getting Stuck in Grief

In Coping with Loss I talk about how specialist financial advice can assist in the bereavement process, but acknowledged that I am not a Bereavement Counsellor. Here I would like to introduce you to Liz Burton, who is a Senior Registered Hypnotherapist and whilst Liz also isn’t a Bereavement Counsellor, she has considerable experience of helping people who feel they are stuck in grief.

Liz writes:

When someone we love dies there follows a time of adjustment. Practical, day to day changes need to be made. Our thought patterns alter as we get used to being without that person. All of the emotions we feel about our loss must be expressed and processed if we’re to eventually get on with our lives. This is the grieving process.

People experience grief differently for many reasons. There is no right or wrong way. Neither is there a clear time period. One person may feel at peace and comfortable after a few months. It may take longer than that for someone else. Outward expressions of grief may help some, whereas others may find that talking is the best thing.

For most of us there eventually comes a time when we can think about that person without the overwhelming sadness of acute grief. We can think of the memories and smile. Our loved one may always be missed but we’re no longer swamped by negative emotions.

Just sometimes, however, we can get “stuck” in the process. As a mental/emotional health practitioner I’ve helped several clients to unlock their emotions and move on.

These clients have presented with a variety of problems. Depression, anxiety, negative thinking, guilt feelings, loss of confidence, etc. None of which were present before their bereavement but are still present years later, preventing them from moving forward and spoiling their quality of life.

If you or someone you know feels they may be stuck in grief there is help out there. Your GP may be able to refer you for help. Alternatively, there are many private professional practitioners with suitable skills and experience.

Life does go on after bereavement, even though it may not feel like it at the time. You still have a right to enjoy your life and feel okay about it. So please seek help if you’re struggling.

A detailed profile of Liz Burton and her contact details are available on her website.

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